About

I am your average twenty-something female who has been trying to make sense of men, dating, and relationships since the turn of the millennium. I have lived on the West Coast, the East Coast, and in the South. I have dated men from both coasts and everywhere in between. I have dated several men seriously. One of those relationships lasted about two years. The rest of those relationships lasted less than six months. I have felt, at times, that I was living a real-life romance movie, complete with bouquets of flowers, butterflies-in-the-stomach, and giddiness. I have been dumped. I have had my heart broken. I have fallen in love and then realized that the person I loved was not the person with whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life. I have ended relationships.

I don’t claim to be different from any other woman out there who wants to find love.

So why am I writing a blog? The answer is this: I’m happy.

For the most part, guys treat me the way I want them to, and when they don’t, I’m comfortable taking action to change that. If you can say this too – that you’re truly happy with and satisfied by your romantic life, that men treat you as you want them to – then you probably don’t need this blog.

But I know so many women don’t feel that way. So many women are not happy, are not being treated as they would like to be treated – whatever that may be: cared for, wined and dined, cherished, loved – and they don’t know why. They have questions about men, about dating, about how to succeed in modern love. It’s a different ballgame from the one our parents played. Our drugs our stronger; our love is more complicated – at least, it sometimes seems that way.

And yet, even in this complicated turn-of-the-century world, I find men comfortingly predictable – sometimes in the most wonderful of ways, and sometimes disappointingly so. I love men; I respect them; I believe they are the complement to women and that we are the complement to men (that is, if you’re heterosexual; I fully support homosexual relationships, though I have no personal experience with them).

At the end of the day, I’m happy. I want you to be happy, too. I want you to meet – and marry, if you choose – the perfect guy for you. I want you to be swept off your feet. I want you to be head-over-heels – and happyand healthy about it. I want you to be smitten – and smart about it.

If you’re unhappy, and you’re already married, there’s still hope! Check out my blog Millennial Matrimony.

If you’re unhappy, and you’re single… the world is still yours! Women just like you have already married the wrong guy. Take comfort: your future is open. Mr. Right is out there. SMITTEN AND SMART is committed to helping you find him.

***Update: I wrote this About page in October of 2009. A few months later, in 2010, I met my husband, and we married in 2012. I still enjoy writing about dating and how to find your soulmate, but you can read my musings on marriage (and how to enjoy the gift of marital love!) over at Millennial Matrimony.***